The idea for today's blog post comes from Ronni Bennett at the Time Goes By blog. For some time now I've wondered if I was slowing down, tired, or perhaps bored. Bob's health is not good so we live a pretty sedate life. A life that could lead to any of the things I have just mentioned.
Now I know some of you are still running on high octane and I wonder if I were in your situation in life if I might also be more active. We will never know. I read Linda Reeder's blog Linda's Letters and feel tired, but never bored.
I've been reading another Linda's blog Linda's Life Journal. This Linda is grandmother to 3 year old quadruplets, and helps care for her 89 year old mother. She makes the most of every minute. Do I really want to be that active? I do not think I am fast enough to keep up her pace.
There must be something in between my life today and these two ladies' lives.
Ronni writes "Whether it is household chores like vacuuming and dusting or outside events - a meeting, lunch or dinner with a friend, a movie, a day trip to the coast or a winery - I seem to be doing fewer of these.
It breaks down to one planned event a day that I find tolerable. If I have a dental appointment - come on, it's only an hour - I won't book a social engagement. If this is the day I choose to clean the bathrooms, vacuum, do the laundry and scrub floors, I won't go to lunch.
And, whenever I do plan a day with others, I go to great lengths to be sure I am free of engagements on the days before and after to be alone.
Compared to most people I've known, even in youth and middle age I needed more time alone. But I seem to need much more now of what I think of as a psychic renewal period after being with others before I'm ready to face the outside world again.
Since I've noticed this phenomenon, the puzzle has been whether desiring more quiet time is common to growing older or if I am just being lazy. Or maybe I want to slow down life itself - that is, even if my walking pace doesn't appear to have changed, perhaps my life pace might be slowing, taking more time to move from one activity to the next."
Ronnie, I hear you.