tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6185056688439833438.post2443340390331763615..comments2023-11-13T21:12:34.165-08:00Comments on One Fixer-Upper: A New Form and Some CommentsLindahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11586429675286969340noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6185056688439833438.post-22639171574802469252016-06-23T16:49:36.621-07:002016-06-23T16:49:36.621-07:00Very good suggestions. I agree it does take time t...Very good suggestions. I agree it does take time to form friendships that are keepers. My motto is always be prepared.Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11586429675286969340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6185056688439833438.post-62976334388432544232016-06-23T12:42:55.879-07:002016-06-23T12:42:55.879-07:00Being raised like an army brat has made making new...Being raised like an army brat has made making new friends in a new place or situation quite routine for me. When I moved here, I joined clubs that held my interest. Two gardening clubs, one cancer support group and one writing group. I made good friends in each but in time it boiled down to about 4 keeper friends that have all ready proven they will be there when I need them. Those types of friendships do take time but having common interests shortens the time span. If I had been a widow, pretty sure I'd have joined a widow's group for they would be the ones who truly understand.<br />Now you got me thinking about my advance directives. Thanks. Arkansas Pattihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14156004753267665579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6185056688439833438.post-12085059450984246922016-06-23T11:57:38.979-07:002016-06-23T11:57:38.979-07:00It's impossible to know the future but we do k...It's impossible to know the future but we do know women are often the ones widowed. Not always, but certainly more I would say. Given I'm such a planner and addicted always take the long rather than the short view, I would start looking at options should you ever find yourself widowed. Would you want to stay where you are, move somewhere else, volunteer, live near a yarn shop and on and on the possibilities go. I've got a couple of options in mind if I'm the one left. It makes me feel more secure knowing I have some options. Doesn't mean I have to do them immediately but I just feel better knowing I've planned ahead.Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11586429675286969340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6185056688439833438.post-76170582451395357032016-06-23T11:31:02.286-07:002016-06-23T11:31:02.286-07:00Lately I've thought a lot about my being alone...Lately I've thought a lot about my being alone if Ken dies first, and I worry about him being alone if I die first. It's a big concern. We have no children, but I am close with a few nieces and nephews. I'm also close with one sister. Ken has no siblings. We have two very dear friens who have been like family for almost 45 years. I'm a bit of a hermit. I didn't realize this until I retired. I'm perfectly happy at home, knitting or gardening or working on whatever project interests me. But I like knowing Ken is around here somewhere, mowing the lawn (which he's doing at the moment) or puttering in his workshop. If I had to live here alone, I'd probably be very depressed. All of this weighs on my mind.Jeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09782394068144501251noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6185056688439833438.post-53218542529001838252016-06-23T10:43:56.378-07:002016-06-23T10:43:56.378-07:00Yes, you really need to look into these issues in ...Yes, you really need to look into these issues in Florida.<br /><br />You're very fortunate to be able to spend time in two states each year and have two sets of friends. Not many are so lucky.Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11586429675286969340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6185056688439833438.post-78588080127224463992016-06-23T10:41:59.161-07:002016-06-23T10:41:59.161-07:00I agree, I was tempted to ignore this pink form. M...I agree, I was tempted to ignore this pink form. My family knows what I want and it may well be that what we filled out years ago is adequate. Since the doctor had them in her office I took two and will return them but doubt I would have put forth the effort to see about it otherwise.<br /><br />Let's hope Tom lives a very long time and you don't have to make these kind of choices. Keep him gardening.Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11586429675286969340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6185056688439833438.post-70385378390357697342016-06-23T10:38:58.628-07:002016-06-23T10:38:58.628-07:00Never too early to start planning. Good for you.Never too early to start planning. Good for you.Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11586429675286969340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6185056688439833438.post-41522685036179643802016-06-23T08:15:39.040-07:002016-06-23T08:15:39.040-07:00You remind me that I have to take a look at all th...You remind me that I have to take a look at all that. I have an advanced directive on file in VT, but I really need to find out how Florida deals documenting these decisions.<br />My husband and I were very happy doing things together, but we both had other interests and friends outside of our coupledom. I have spent the last three years being grateful for the support and companionship of my friends.Olgahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00692441479616299920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6185056688439833438.post-80238821365076707272016-06-22T21:21:51.300-07:002016-06-22T21:21:51.300-07:00I don't know if our advanced directives are wh...I don't know if our advanced directives are what is required now or not. I guess I should check into it, but ....maybe I'll put it off. I don't want to have to fill out more forms or pay a lawyer to change what we have drawn up. <br />I have often thought about what my life would be like without Tom. I suspect I might be lonely, since I am not good at making friends either. Tom is my best friend and companion in all things. I'm not sure what I would do, but I would probably end up in a retirement home apartment. At least I have family around. Linda Reederhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07665601809156707572noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6185056688439833438.post-52151001685911259272016-06-22T20:10:18.529-07:002016-06-22T20:10:18.529-07:00My hubby is a fairly new retirement and I have a l...My hubby is a fairly new retirement and I have a little while before I retire.<br />He and I are slowly setting up our estate which isn't much. <br />Coffee is onpeppylady (Dora)https://www.blogger.com/profile/01649272822470007714noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6185056688439833438.post-68121036681778082602016-06-22T19:04:33.017-07:002016-06-22T19:04:33.017-07:00Always decisions. Different decisions for differen...Always decisions. Different decisions for different stages of life.Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11586429675286969340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6185056688439833438.post-9136815793243977282016-06-22T17:36:33.991-07:002016-06-22T17:36:33.991-07:00Golden years are full of tough decisions. some of ...Golden years are full of tough decisions. some of us have found decisions difficult our whole life. these won't be any easier.Redhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17996243850279671523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6185056688439833438.post-76017130794176003852016-06-22T17:20:08.155-07:002016-06-22T17:20:08.155-07:00Yep, more new paper work. I also hate filling out ...Yep, more new paper work. I also hate filling out paper forms, much prefer doing them on the computer. It is very true, having family does not guarantee you'll have family around when you grow old. We're a very mobile society.Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11586429675286969340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6185056688439833438.post-85084710389176232752016-06-22T17:17:35.642-07:002016-06-22T17:17:35.642-07:00A new form, ugh, I hate paperwork! It seems that t...A new form, ugh, I hate paperwork! It seems that the older we get, the more hoops we have to jump. I really should have been born a hundred years ago.<br /><br />No, having family doesn't guarantee a thing. Sharonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02743921972328074980noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6185056688439833438.post-79313743422438323712016-06-22T16:39:17.795-07:002016-06-22T16:39:17.795-07:00It is definitely true that once you lose a mate yo...It is definitely true that once you lose a mate you often lose 'couple' friends as well. That's too bad but it's true. I've thought about all this for ages. The truth is I'm not interested in reaching out at this stage of my life. Perhaps it's not time yet for me to take any action.Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11586429675286969340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6185056688439833438.post-10965049800154470492016-06-22T16:35:02.420-07:002016-06-22T16:35:02.420-07:00Absolutely, I hear you. In my case I retired and w...Absolutely, I hear you. In my case I retired and we moved out of state leaving a very active friendly neighborhood. I love being my myself but I have this little niggly feeling of what happens if I need somebody. What would I do? Our son lives here but by the time he could get to me I would probably have made other arrangements. I don't want to spend extended amounts of time on the phone to anybody.Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11586429675286969340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6185056688439833438.post-60908050689313457762016-06-22T16:14:50.432-07:002016-06-22T16:14:50.432-07:00I'm glad I made you think today. Before my hus...I'm glad I made you think today. Before my husband died I never worried about having or making friends. He was my best friend, the person who knew me better than anyone. I do miss that kind of closest but I realize I'll never find that again. And people you knew as part of a couple don't necessarily stick with you once you're alone. It's not just me saying that; it's common in widowhood circles to lose friends.<br /><br />Interesting that your doctor's office gives out those kinds of forms where you life. Here, I had to go to my lawyer to get them drawn up and then take copies to the hospital and doctor's office. If I remember correctly they were 5-6 pages long covering all kinds of situations. I felt comfortable having the lawyer explain the pros and cons of each point.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6185056688439833438.post-11942930785544526732016-06-22T16:10:23.795-07:002016-06-22T16:10:23.795-07:00You always provide food for thought, Linda.
When ...You always provide food for thought, Linda. <br />When I retired, I suddenly realized that most of the people I interacted with (and therefore filling my not-so-deep need for social contact) were just people at work. Once I left, those connections ended. <br />Luckily, I've found a couple of people, but I guess I want a world where there's a fleet of people I can call if I want, but where I can stay home for three days with no obligations. Martyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02366449267039641100noreply@blogger.com