tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6185056688439833438.post1222823359768108813..comments2023-11-13T21:12:34.165-08:00Comments on One Fixer-Upper: Old Husband and Another TimeLindahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11586429675286969340noreply@blogger.comBlogger26125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6185056688439833438.post-31982841241457809832017-02-24T09:08:12.156-08:002017-02-24T09:08:12.156-08:00Oops now I see my comment! My bad.Oops now I see my comment! My bad.Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09623820316056914224noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6185056688439833438.post-61565377775305151772017-02-24T09:07:22.106-08:002017-02-24T09:07:22.106-08:00I left a comment yesterday - but I guess I didn...I left a comment yesterday - but I guess I didn't do it right! <br />Leaving Bob on a porch somewhere reminded me of when Mother was living with Nita and locked herself out of the house. A neighbor found mother wandering around and called the police. Mother made them understand (she can't speak plainly) the way to Deanie's house. The police showed up at Deanie's door with mother in the back seat of the squad car! They thought Deanie had taken mother somewhere and abandoned her. They though mother was a victim of elder abuse! Be very careful where you leave Bob! They will most probably bring him right back to you!Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09623820316056914224noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6185056688439833438.post-38765742185369995372017-02-24T08:33:45.094-08:002017-02-24T08:33:45.094-08:00Every day is a new challenge but I have not a sing...Every day is a new challenge but I have not a single doubt Bob would do the same for me. That makes the burden lighter.Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11586429675286969340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6185056688439833438.post-47618387355197898202017-02-24T08:32:03.671-08:002017-02-24T08:32:03.671-08:00Finished a pair of socks yesterday. Always have a ...Finished a pair of socks yesterday. Always have a feeling of accomplishment when that happens.Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11586429675286969340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6185056688439833438.post-36826973721094792512017-02-24T08:30:18.225-08:002017-02-24T08:30:18.225-08:00Absolutely, some people choose death and there'...Absolutely, some people choose death and there's nothing the federal government can do about it. Tour husband no doubt wanted to spare you but also himself. I'm one of those people,Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11586429675286969340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6185056688439833438.post-55747715661574425422017-02-24T08:26:58.764-08:002017-02-24T08:26:58.764-08:00Yes, that's the worst part of the role of care...Yes, that's the worst part of the role of caregiver, the work keeps getting harder. Am ver grateful Bob's in a stable period right now. On some things Bob is sharp as a tack, on the common, everyday stuff he can be dumb as dirt.Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11586429675286969340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6185056688439833438.post-36889760747132246112017-02-24T08:23:21.802-08:002017-02-24T08:23:21.802-08:00Linda, I think we are fortunate to be younger than...Linda, I think we are fortunate to be younger than our husbands. I'm so thankful I can care for Bob. We'd be in a real mess if both of us were 85.<br /><br />That's too funny about your mom. Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11586429675286969340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6185056688439833438.post-1766937557241090912017-02-24T08:05:27.652-08:002017-02-24T08:05:27.652-08:00You said something that I really haven't thoug...You said something that I really haven't thought about much but is quite true. As tough as being a caregiver is, it isn't a bundle of fun being the caregetter either. You are doing a grand job handling the learning curve. Arkansas Pattihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14156004753267665579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6185056688439833438.post-16076664811076992312017-02-24T06:29:58.054-08:002017-02-24T06:29:58.054-08:00Gorgeous socks. I didn't realize mohair streng...Gorgeous socks. I didn't realize mohair strengthens the socks. Interesting.Jeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09782394068144501251noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6185056688439833438.post-46536704127085090682017-02-24T06:04:07.836-08:002017-02-24T06:04:07.836-08:00I am absolutely certain that my husband chose deat...I am absolutely certain that my husband chose death over putting me through dealing with him as an invalid. But, of course, he knew my level of patience and nursing skill quite well, so he might have been choosing his own comfort as well.Olgahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00692441479616299920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6185056688439833438.post-77138120952711870542017-02-23T23:58:22.185-08:002017-02-23T23:58:22.185-08:00Oh, I hear you Linda. I always hesitate to mention...Oh, I hear you Linda. I always hesitate to mention anything too soon to Jim. He'll be ready hours early, wanting to know when we are leaving. <br /><br />Caregiving is a tough job with challenges every single day. And we know it doesn't get easier. I think that is the hardest part, knowing that things are just going to get worse. Hang in there!Carolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17237805282007404140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6185056688439833438.post-21829109464747062522017-02-23T21:44:09.369-08:002017-02-23T21:44:09.369-08:00Louis Dean is just now to the point that he is fee...Louis Dean is just now to the point that he is feeling a loss of strength. Hence, the exercise. Of course, he still works hard and long but it's not as easy as it used to be for him. I'm now going to the doctor with him just so I know what's going on. He forgets so much. Still, he did hammer that rat dead tonight! We make a good pair. If I were 80 as he is, we'll, let's just say I'm certain I won't be doing as well as he. It must be those Native American genes of his!<br /><br /><br />If you leave Bob on a porch somewhere, they'll just bring him back! Once Mother locked herself out of the house when she lived with Nita. The police came and Mother was able to make them understand directions to Deanie's. When she opened the door to the police, she was shocked! Not only did they bring Mother, they accused her of elderly abuse! It was hilarious! Deanie went out to the police car and mother just smiled and said hi!Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09623820316056914224noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6185056688439833438.post-43725308301083194932017-02-23T21:24:58.008-08:002017-02-23T21:24:58.008-08:00Hopefully I'll be able to come up with enough ...Hopefully I'll be able to come up with enough to keep you entertained. If nothing else you can read about what you don't want to do when you become an Old Husband.Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11586429675286969340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6185056688439833438.post-28413784204480530792017-02-23T21:22:54.730-08:002017-02-23T21:22:54.730-08:00Oh, I hear you about that story telling. I have th...Oh, I hear you about that story telling. I have that with Bob but our sister-in-law is worse. She's maddening to talk to. Sometimes I just jump in and cut her off. Over and over she starts at the beginning every time. Certain things trigger Bob to tell the same story again and again.<br /><br />I'm trying to relax a little about the Trump WH. I'm beginning to see a pattern. They really aren't accomplishing a lot because they don't know enough to know how to accomplish anything. The good thing is they're keeping Congress off balance and they're not accomplishing anything either. I figure nothing is better than something bad. They use bully language a lot but get quickly get distracted. <br /><br />I'm comforted by knowing how much D.C. has lawyered up for this administration. Many lawsuits are being filed but all that takes time. I don't think Trump and the WH have to begin to respond to a lot of those cases until April. Far too slow for my taste.<br /><br />I'm proud of the media. At least we can keep an eye on this bunch. It would be much worse if Trump operated in secret like Nixon.Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11586429675286969340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6185056688439833438.post-47245012342735297842017-02-23T21:05:52.997-08:002017-02-23T21:05:52.997-08:00Judy, you are so right. That's been a real pro...Judy, you are so right. That's been a real problem with Bob. He has no hobbies.Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11586429675286969340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6185056688439833438.post-10458896588646555442017-02-23T21:04:45.284-08:002017-02-23T21:04:45.284-08:00Yes, caregiving is hard and the situations you des...Yes, caregiving is hard and the situations you describe are the hardest because it's just plain awful to take away a person's independence against their wishes. There's an awful lot of grey area to care giving. Hopefully I'll be able to come up with enough to have something for all readers.Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11586429675286969340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6185056688439833438.post-35580203083834174402017-02-23T20:37:22.182-08:002017-02-23T20:37:22.182-08:00Well, two out of three ain't bad. I'll rea...Well, two out of three ain't bad. I'll read old husband and politics and skip the knitting .I do understand how knitting is very good for you and how necessary knitting is..Redhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17996243850279671523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6185056688439833438.post-54092764371758381252017-02-23T19:55:59.005-08:002017-02-23T19:55:59.005-08:00Sounds like your sock yarn is "too much of a ...Sounds like your sock yarn is "too much of a good thing". <br />My husband is entering the annoying old man storytelling phase. Any answer to any question I have seems to begin somewhere in the middle and wander all around until am not sure when it gets to the end what the answer actually is. it makes me impatient and then I snap at him. I will have to practice patience. I'm just not ready to deal with "old". <br />As to politics, I don't even profess to be patient. What the hell??? Every day!Linda Reederhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07665601809156707572noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6185056688439833438.post-12553691265768723132017-02-23T18:59:49.860-08:002017-02-23T18:59:49.860-08:00I have noticed that women age a lot better then me...I have noticed that women age a lot better then men. I think it's because women always have their normal "chores" to do. Laundry, cooking, cleaning--even when we worked we had these chores and when we retire, we still have them. Men seem to have their job and when they retire, if they haven't taken on any hobbies, they just don't have enough to keep their minds occupied and alive. I took care of one man that I adored, but now alone--I prefer to keep it that way. I used to knit socks all the time. I'll bet the Mohair will be nice and warm.Judyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03399435237919718544noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6185056688439833438.post-58354335005591668392017-02-23T16:45:17.026-08:002017-02-23T16:45:17.026-08:00Caregiving is HARD on the emotions. To me, when ta...Caregiving is HARD on the emotions. To me, when taking away independence you have to give the most weight to if the care recipient is putting his/her life at risk or the lives of others. When my brother had to call tracking dogs to find his wife, who had dementia, that was when he had to make a tough decision. When our dad got lost going two miles between houses he'd been going between for decades we talked him into giving up his license and keys. <br /><br />Your three sections make sense. I will read them all. I don't make socks but I knit and I cared for two old guys---husband and dad---and I need the daily fix of politics.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6185056688439833438.post-78255609877890736422017-02-23T14:53:49.636-08:002017-02-23T14:53:49.636-08:00It is very hard to know when to take over. Before ...It is very hard to know when to take over. Before Bob there was my parents so I've had some experience. I hate so bad to take away his independence that I put it off as long as possible, usually until a crisis tips the scales, and then wish I'd done it sooner.Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11586429675286969340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6185056688439833438.post-14573433218692647142017-02-23T14:38:10.360-08:002017-02-23T14:38:10.360-08:00Is it just me or does it seem like men don't a...Is it just me or does it seem like men don't age as well as women? Perhaps I'm wrong on that. I've always had a hard time understanding why older widows go looking for another old husband. It's interesting how many articles about aging are written by people in their 30s & 40s. I'm always thrilled to meet another sock knitter.Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11586429675286969340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6185056688439833438.post-15427747194426302782017-02-23T14:07:36.507-08:002017-02-23T14:07:36.507-08:00This resonated with me, "Almost always I shou...This resonated with me, "Almost always I should have taken charge before I did." Boy, did I find that to be true with Dad. He was tough and fought me every inch of the way. Independence is a hard thing to give up. He had two falls during the years I was caring for him: once when he tried to walk to the bathroom without letting me know first, and another when he tried to sit down in his shower chair before I was ready to help him. Both times he was sure he could do it by himself. <br /><br />I really do admire your socks and your ability to make them. <br /><br />Bella Rumhttp://bellarum.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6185056688439833438.post-90073933771450940892017-02-23T13:07:44.673-08:002017-02-23T13:07:44.673-08:00Absolutely. We have too much invested now to quit....Absolutely. We have too much invested now to quit. I'm committed to seeing OH through to the end, or die trying, and that's certainly a possibility. I try to keep in mind he isn't having a lot of fun either.Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11586429675286969340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6185056688439833438.post-3655141337975733392017-02-23T12:59:56.667-08:002017-02-23T12:59:56.667-08:00Your new format is a great idea. Since I am one of...Your new format is a great idea. Since I am one of your sock knitting readers, I will enjoy your knitting notes. I also have a OH. He is disappointed that he doesn't feel he is aging gracefully. Whoever called these the "golden years" was probably 35.Sandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13777459766189519817noreply@blogger.com